Good, Loving Relationships concept from the theorist Buscaglia

Reality Check: Romance and Romanticism behind a Good, Loving Relationship "And they live happily ever after," is one of the most tragic sentence in literature. Joshua Liebman Introduction It started when we were kids, a damsel in distress and the prince charming to the rescue and the ending is always happy. Princesses are always beautiful, kind, gentle and will always be in the situation where they are needed to be saved while the knight in shining armor would always be handsome, charming, and rich, gentleman, brave, strong and so on. Whatever the twists and turns of the story it can be expected that this is the last thing we will remember, that in the end the perfect couple lives happily ever after. When we were kids we do not entirely know how to discriminate what`s real from what is not. Hence while we were starting to create a notion of ourselves, others and the world itself, we cannot help but to incorporate what the fairy tales told us about the world. This primarily influences the expectations we develop and gather towards mate selection, relationships and living with our significant other. We expect, consciously or unconsciously, a happily ever after in our own life story. Body We have been poisoned by fairy tales. -Anais Nin In his ideas on love and relationships, Leo Buscaglia was able to make us realize that there is a need to re-evaluate our conception of being in a relationship. He discussed important aspects that we have to invest on to be able to have a good and loving relationship. Communication, Honesty, Forgiveness, Joy and Intimacy are the major areas he highlighted. But before giving out this list, he first talked about a very significant reality about how people perceived being in a romantic relationship, that is influenced by certain myths. Real and loving relationship should not be in anyways, derived from the expectations rooted on myths. This is the general theme this discussion will elaborate on. To fully understand the concepts of romance and romanticism this paper aims first at discussing the influences of unrealistic expectations to motivations of marrying and to marriage itself. Second this paper will look how teenagers view these marriage myths and lastly an examination on how to decrease, if not totally eliminate, unrealistic beliefs about marriage will be presented. When nobody around you seems to measure up, it's time to check your yardstick.Bill Lemley To help achieve this paper`s goal the following studies and researches will be utilized; The End of Romance: Demystification of Love in Post-modern Age by James J. Dowd and Nicole Pallota. This material will help us understand the concepts of romance and romanticism. How these concepts changed across time was studied by looking at romantic comedies and dramas produced in Hollwood from 1930 to 2000. Dowd and Pallota give us an analysis of the social and cultural changes in relation to this changing nature of romance and romanticism. Romanticism and Motivation to Marry in the United States, Singapore, Burma and India by George Theodorson. Looking at romanticism as a Western influence to Asian countries (Singapore, Burma and India), the researcher for this study analyzes how romanticism...